I had the fortune recently to be in close proximity to a “know-it-all” kind of one-sided conversation. A sort of guidelines-for-living presentation assembled with simple minded assertions of behavior that neither supported nor built upon any other. Maxims of no consequence. They were spoken with such confidence, strong cadence and expectation that the small audience nearby was transfixed.
The assertion of “You have to love yourself first,” is an projection nightmare. Consider the geometry of loving yourself first – a point of light looking in upon itself to find love. It sits alone in disconnectedness lacking context awareness. Espousing the Golden Rule in practical terms of doing unto others by rationale at any satisfying ration. Unawareness can do nothing more when it acts as a guidance.
For your flow of life to be at ease I suggest the outward be considered in combination with your potential within it. A reflection of the Aquarian Principle.
APPROVE WHEN YOU CAN. ACCEPT WHEN YOU CAN’T. DO NO HARM AS YOU DO.
Like being aware of harm, becoming aware of your potential within the contexts you find yourself takes focus away from loving yourself. Your self needs no professed or considered love when this expression of love to self is maintained. You are then free to consider how best to share your personal perspective on love and joy with the world using your potentials. Walking a Graal path toward and among your best life possible.